By: David DeAngelo, Composer Of “Double Your Dating”
Allow me to get started by suggesting something interesting:
I have myself stopped concentrating on simply getting cell phone numbers. I have found that E-MAIL addresses are much better (We nevertheless have the phone quantity too, needless to say).
We perfected the art to getting telephone numbers a few years ago.
If a female is solitary, i will walk as much as her and obtain her number in of a full minute or two (if i am in a rush). I consequently found out later on, after working like a angry scientist on this that ACQUIRING TELEPHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL TRIUMPH.
The thing is, ladies have numerous reasons that are different offering their cell phone numbers. Some love the interest of experiencing a complete great deal of men call them. Some prefer to turn dudes down. Some are actually interested. However the universal feedback that I have from guys, plus in my own experience, ladies behave various from the phone than they are doing in individual.
Whenever you call a lady for the time that is first she will frequently start acting stand offish and sometimes even worse, simply simple rude. It really is just like she’s a person that is different usually the one you met.
I have found that getting a contact target isn’t just easier, however it gets more responses that are positive on. It is very nearly just as if ladies enjoy it that you have taken the time for you to considercarefully what you’re going to state whenever you compose a message for them, and additionally they think about you similar to some body they understand.
One other advantageous asset of e-mail is the fact that it may be written and answered anytime.
In the event that you call, you must in fact achieve them. But a contact can anytime be answered. And I also’ve discovered that e-mails are answered much more frequently than voicemail communications.
HERE IS THE JUST HOW TO: when i’ve talked to a lady for around a few mins, I’ll frequently state something similar to
“Well, it absolutely was nice conference you. I will return to my buddies. “
They often have no idea what direction to go, because they’re familiar with dudes clinging in their mind. In most cases, they state “It had been meeting that is nice too. ” Then, just like i am switching to disappear, and then we type of disconnect, we turn straight straight straight back and state “HEY! Are you experiencing e-mail? “
The “HEY! ” is just a bit astonishing, and ” Do you really have email” is non-threatening. In reality, i am theoretically asking her if she HAS e-mail, maybe not if she will PROVIDE IT IN MY EXPERIENCE.
If she states “yes, ” We take out a pen and paper and state “Great, compose it straight down for me personally” and I also have her write it straight down. (this can be great, as we just treat the ‘yes’ that they offer me personally as a yes to have it from their website aswell. And additionally they’ve very nearly ALL gone along along with it up to now) Then AS SHE IS IN THE EXACT MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “create your quantity down there too. “
Once you request email, it is extremely low danger for a girl, therefore she will think “Fine, we’ll accomplish that. ” The majority of women can give down a contact target without great deal of thought, simply because they realize that they could select later on to just maybe perhaps not answer.
The miracle of asking them to create their telephone number down WHILST they may be in the center of writing out their e-mail is focused on the therapy of individual behavior.
She is currently mentally said “OK, I’ll offer you my current email address”. And she is in the exact middle of composing it straight straight down. Once you state “and simply compose your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to write it just.
Put differently, it’s A much smaller action than providing out of the telephone number simply by it self. It took me personally a number of years to find out this move that is simple nonetheless it works as promised! You will have ladies composing their cell phone numbers down without also thinking twice.
Here is a great add-on to ensure you’re getting a genuine contact number rather than a pager or voicemail:
As she actually is writing out her telephone number I say “Is this lots which you answer? Really” If she talks about me and hesitates, or states it’s her “voicemail or pager quantity, ” then I state “Look, compose your genuine quantity down. It will be okay, We’ll just phone you nine times every day. ” They laugh and frequently give me personally their genuine quantity.
Now, if she answers my very first concern and claims “No, I do not have e-mail” then I bust on them and state “Well, are you experiencing electricity? ” This is often outstanding chance to utilize humor.
I quickly state “Well, OK then. We like email better, but We’ll simply take your regular phone number. It is so damn hard to attain individuals from the phone these times. “
Just understand that what you need to accomplish is ask.
Like we stated, I’ve tried all sorts of things. And I also’ve gotten a huge selection of cell phone numbers. And I also utilize this sequence that is exact time we keep in touch with a lady and I also need to get her contact number. I have gotten towards the point where i could usually do that ina moment or two – no kidding!
Now in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it.
Many guys have asked me “But what do we inform her being a good good reason why i’d like her quantity or e-mail? ” I have never really had a girl ask me personally. If you ask, plus they give it, then she understands why you asked. Then she also knew why you asked if she doesn’t give it to you.
Simply assume that this is actually the situation.
In a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers if you ask every time, and you do it.
Note: Carry a pen you all of the time. I favor the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) given that it’s little, elegant, and females like it!
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